When relationship become stale, and being with each other seems to be no more than a routine, boring, then it is a warning sign that the relationship is at the brink of ending.
When you are in a relationship that is lack of life, then seeing the other person day in day out doesn’t mean much anymore, sooner or later it will become an excuse to stop seeing each other.
If the relationship that you were in was boring, and now it has ended because your ex pointed out that you are being boring, then perhaps it is time to make some serious changes and win him/her back before it is too late.
What do I mean by being a boring person, how are you being boring? Well, keep an open mind and listen to what I have to say, perhaps you will realize something.
Reason #1: You are not spending adequate time interacting with family members of your partner – Yes this it is such an awkward thing to do, and perhaps it may be scary, but hanging around in the presence of your partner’s family members, especially his/her parents is necessary for a relationship to really bloom, because it is a platform where trust is built upon.
Occasionally, when your partner’s family members are having a get-together, Christmas or thanksgiving or anything of that sort, it is always wise for you to show up. By showing up, this mean you won’t burden your partner to have to come up with an excuse or cover up story that explains your absence. Initially your partner may be able to tolerate your refusal to be around his/her family, but as time goes by, unconsciously or consciously, he/she will develop a feeling that you are not worth being with. And no wonder the fiery passion can cool down over time.
Yes, as I mentioned earlier, it can be really awkward especially when it come to having conversations you partner’s distant relatives that their names you don’t even know of, but just for the sake of keeping the relationship fresh and build trust, I advise you to endure it.
Reason #2: You are not connected enough with your partner’s circle of friends – Often when a person is dating someone, the first people that he/she are their friend. This is often the case with women. This means, to some extent he/she invited friends to be a part of the relationship, and invited you to be a part of the circle of friends.
Sooner or later, one way or another you will have to meet the friends, and perhaps the friends would want to meet you. So, here is a suggestion, since the “get to know each other” will take place anyway, why don’t you blast out a good impression by making efforts to meet them first? Ideally, your partner may still want see his/her friends as often, and your presence with the circle of friends can really make his/her life much more happier. It is bad when you demand you partner to sacrifice friendship in order to give you the utmost attention, this maybe tolerable at the beginning, but as time flies by, hardly your partner can keep up to it.
Of course in some cases, it is hard to mix around with the circle of friends, especially if they are not equivocal about the relationship. But still, you have to make effort to reach out to his/her friends, it is more noble of you this way!
Never put your partner in a situation whereby he/she have to choose between you or friends,make adjustments, give and take, do your best not to exclude your partner from his/her friends.
Reason #3: Things that keep the relationship going has become a set of routine – This perhaps the most common reason that relationship become boring, and spiral downwards and towards a breakup. Things that once kept the relationship alive are becoming ineffective and words used in conversation become stale. Well, if this is the case you seriously ought to do something about it, before the journey along the path of breakup closing in on the destination.
Let me illustrate a typical scheme of boringness, Work home TV sleep Work home TV sleep Work home TV sleep … every single day.
Some serious modification need to be done, you need to be creative here, do some exciting activities like going out for a dance once or twice a week, go the park to ride or jog, plan a travel, … anything just to break the chain of boredom and spice up the relationship.
Of course it doesn’t necessary have to be expensive, easily affordable yet fun activities like going to cinema once a week or eating out once a week, rather than sitting in front of the TV. Now If you are reading this and your relationship has ended because you are accused of being boring, my advice to you is, take note of what is said in this article then try to persuade your ex and make him/ her know that the relationship is not going to be the same anymore, that it is an adventure if you will. Use proves if you need to.
After all, if you don’t bother to change, doesn’t really matter if your ex is back or you have someone new in your life, the same problem is going to persist and it won’t take long until the next wave of relationship trouble resurface up again.
I truly hope that this article helps and I wish you the best in changing the course of your relationship, after all, isn’t a relationship supposed to be an adventure? For more ways to solve relationship problems and overcome the obstacles of your relationship, Read This!