If your wife or girlfriend just left you, you may need to learn the magic of making up.
First thing to know is if you are feeling depressed, lonely or if your heart aches, just know things will improve. It is normal to be in this condition but right now isn’t the best time for you to plan to get back together.
Although it might not seem fair, at this point because she just left you, she may not care that you’re feeling this way. Chances are she may want you to miss her, desire her and allow you to sit in pain for a bit.
At this stage of the game you’re probably willing to beg, cry and lie about anything including, how you’ll instantly change. That is why I’m suggesting that you take a time out and clear your head so that you can make better decisions.
When your head is clear and you’re ready to begin, take a long serious look at the relationship. After carefully thinking it through, you have decided that the relationship is worth it and you want to follow through. Now that you have made that decision, it is time to turn on the magic of making up.
You need to do this with confidence and grace. You need to get out with some of your couple friends so they will report back to your ex. Enjoy yourself and have fun.
You want to make sure she gets the message that you are not locked up at home and depressed. You want to come across as doing ok.
Eventually when you do bump into her, she’ll ask how you are. Make sure you express that you are doing ok. Don’t use words like great or fantastic, because she’ll think you no longer have interest in her. Tell her that it saddened you that the relationship ended and that you realize now that a lot of it was your behavior.
Let her also know that this separation allowed you to appreciate what relationship you did have and that you could have treated her better.
I don’t recommend that you ask for a second chance. Instead, tell her that you hope she is happy and that not making that a priority in the past was a big mistake. Let her know that you still care very much. Politely tell her you have to leave.
Allow her to sink in what is happening because right now she is probably quite confused.
She will now see a different person than she had left and she will start having doubts about her decision. Now that you have her reconsidering, make sure you are sincere about regretting your past mistakes. Hopefully this will lead to a fresh new second chance.