Breaking up with a person you care about most is probably the loneliest moment that you can ever feel. Watching you ex walk away from, and in your heart you want him/her back to your arms so bad, and no wonder you are tormented by this feeling of loneliness.
But, here is the truth you need to know, by entertaining this feeling of loneliness you won’t get anywhere, in fact, you are at risk of taking stupid action and doing things to win her back out of the sense of desperation, of which is absolutely unwise.
What do I mean by doing things out of the sense of desperation? For example calling, sending text messages, and emails to your ex until he/she is scared of you.
So, that is why I stress the idea of avoiding the feeling of loneliness. After all, feelings don’t tell the whole truth don’t they? They are so subjective at times that they can point you towards a wrong direction.
On the contrary of throwing the pity party for yourself, with people, get in touch with your social life again. By family members and relatives that are closed by. From option to choose to hang out with. Spend some quality friendship!
Obviously you want your ex back so badly, but isn’t it good to take your mind off your ex for some time, stop torturing yourself, let your feeling settle down so that you can think clearly and come up with a better and sensible strategy to win back your ex. It is not good that you hide in your room thinking about your ex all the time, do a little favor for yourself, hang out with good friends and avoid depression.
Besides clearing your mind off negative thoughts and hence depression, being surrounded by friends is actually a backup plan in case, your plan to win your ex back, backfires. What do I mean? by this I mean, if your ex back is never going to come back to you, you need to move on, and who better to help you through than good friends!
By constantly having friends around you, you will have at least someone to give you emotional and psychological support at need. There are no better ways than having fun with friends in order to cope
with the painful memory of your ex. Plus, without your ex around, now you can jump back into the carefree life of enjoying with friends before you met him/her.
Well, practically I do know that there are a number people that ended their relationships and have no friends to back surround them. This is especially true for teenagers and young adults nowadays, for the sake of giving their boyfriend of girlfriend ultimate attention, they abandoned their friends, and only to find out later that it is the wrong thing to do.
If the above description fits you, here is a piece of advice – swallow some of your pride, go through your contact list and call your friends that you’ve lost contact with. Of course things will seem awkward in the beginning, by as you see them regularly, at no time you’ll pick up the latest gossips and dirty jokes again and probably things will be back to as it is before again.
Yes, if you have family members, it is always good to spend some time with them it is really helpful, but still nothing beats spending time with friends. Friends is sort of like you are interacting with the community, kind of “social contact” if you will, while family are just confined unit of a few people you grew up with.
But in case family members are the only people to spend time with after you broke up, then it is better to spend time with them rather than be alone, but beware of their feelings though, because if you are bugging them all the time with your issue only, they might not like it.
If you don’t have family members nearby to support you, or friends you can run to. I recommend you to join social groups, in places such as churches, support groups or clubs, whereby you can meet new people.
And so, I hope this article is helpful for you, the bottom line is, you have the tendency to isolate yourself after a breakup, that is a normal feeling because you miss the person you care about so much, but NOT necessary that you have to be lonely, for no man is an island. Go find your friends, you should go out of your room, and hang out “people”, I mean friends that you can trust, or my point of view, trustable friends are the best time, doing some useful activities and treasure family or social groups, and stay emotionally healthy as you are dealing with your relationship issue.